Letters from Alyssa: How to Talk to Your Professors About the High Holidays
Hi Friend,
I’m Alyssa, a senior at the University of Southern California, and I’ve been through the “How do I tell my professors I need time off for the High Holidays?” process a few times now. Trust me, I know how nerve-wracking it can be, especially if you’re new to campus. As the fall semester begins, Jewish students are faced with this familiar dilemma: how to balance academic responsibilities with the importance of observing the High Holidays. I still remember feeling like my stomach was doing somersaults the first time I had to approach my professors about requesting time off.
But after a few years of navigating the High Holidays on campus (and realizing professors are actually pretty understanding about it), I’ve got some tips to share. Whether you’re a freshman just starting out or a fellow upperclassman who still gets a little anxious about this, you’re not alone. Here’s some advice to help you handle this situation with confidence and authenticity. Let’s walk through this together.
Start Early, Plan Ahead
The key to minimizing anxiety in this process is early preparation. As soon as you receive your syllabus, check whichever dates of Rosh Hashanah, Yom Kippur, and Sukkot that you’ll be celebrating against your class schedule. Ideally, you should approach your professors within the first few weeks of classes. This gives them plenty of time to consider your request and make any necessary adjustments.
Remember, professors are used to students requesting time off for various reasons. By being proactive, you’re demonstrating responsibility and respect for their time and learning environment.
Be Clear and Confident
When you speak with your professors, be clear about your needs. Explain that you’ll be observing the Jewish High Holidays, and will need to miss class on specific dates. It’s okay to be straightforward – you’re not asking for special treatment, but for the opportunity to practice your faith.
Here’s a sample script you might use:
“Professor [Name], I hope you’re doing well. I wanted to let you know that I will not be in class on [dates], as I will be observing the Jewish High Holidays of Rosh Hashanah/Yom Kippur/Sukkot. I was hoping we could discuss how I can make up any work or assignments I might miss during this time. Thank you so much for understanding, and I look forward to seeing you in class!”
Your heritage and beliefs are meaningful parts of who you are. Embracing them on campus allows you to live authentically and be true to yourself, which adds so much to your community.
Offer Solutions
Come prepared with ideas on how you’ll catch up on missed work. Will you get notes from a classmate? Can you complete assignments ahead of time? By showing that you’ve thought this through, you’re demonstrating your commitment to both your faith and your studies.
Know Your Rights and Seek Support
Many universities have policies protecting students’ rights to observe religious holidays. Familiarize yourself with your school’s policy, and know your rights to safety, security, and full and equal participation at school more generally. This knowledge can give you confidence in your conversations with professors.
If you’re feeling unsure or anxious about these conversations, remember that you’re not alone. Reach out to your campus Hillel or the office of religious life for support. They can offer advice, resources, and sometimes even advocate on your behalf. Find your Hillel here.
Embrace the Opportunity
While it might feel challenging, this situation is actually an opportunity. By having these conversations, you’re not just securing time off for an important purpose – you’re educating others about Jewish traditions and practicing skills like self-advocacy and time management.
Remember, observing the High Holidays doesn’t make you less of a student. In fact, the reflection and renewal central to this time can enhance your academic experience, providing perspective and renewed focus for the semester ahead.
As you prepare for these conversations, take a deep breath and remember: you’ve got this. Your Jewish identity is a source of strength, not a hindrance. By advocating for your needs, you’re honoring your heritage and setting yourself up for a meaningful High Holiday observance and a successful semester.
Wishing you a fulfilling spiritual season and a great start to your academic year. Shanah tovah!
Take good care,
Alyssa
Originally from Los Angeles, Alyssa Wallack is a senior at the University of Southern California. A passionate advocate for Jewish and Israel-related causes, she’s now interning with Hillel International. When not immersed in her studies or various fellowships, Alyssa loves exploring LA’s food scene and connecting with fellow students about all things Jewish.
Letters from Alyssa is a series of reflections and advice from Alyssa Wallack, a Hillel International Intern. Read Alyssa’s thoughts on how she’s navigating Yom Kippur this year.