Letters from Alyssa: Let’s Talk About Yom Kippur
Hi Friend,
With Yom Kippur approaching, and with the intensity of this week’s commemoration of the October 7 attacks, I’ve been reflecting on what this holiday really means to me. Growing up, I heard all these daunting things about how I was supposed to act on Yom Kippur: fasting, wearing white clothes, and disconnecting from electronics. And the more I thought about it, the more I realized that all of these practices have one thing in common: they’re intended to cultivate deeper connection and reflection, free from distraction. Whether you’re looking for a connection to religion, to your community, or to yourself, these Jewish practices and traditions are all intended to help you find meaning and connection on Yom Kippur.
This led me to some pretty big realizations. For me, it’s all about relationships, including my relationship with my religion, with myself, and with my community. And part of deepening those relationships means being a person of integrity, looking for ways to grow as an individual, and building connections that help give my life purpose. So while, on the surface, Yom Kippur might seem like a straightforward religious observance with its fasting and traditions, I’ve come to see it as something more — a powerful opportunity to focus on the most meaningful aspects of my life.
Yom Kippur is like hitting a pause button on life’s chaos. It’s a chance to quiet down all the noise, and focus on what’s truly important. I’m planning to do the following as part of my observance this year:
- Before Shabbat, I’m going to reach out to a friend I drifted apart from to try to reconnect. It’s never too late to say “I’m sorry” or “Can we talk?” This act of teshuva (repentance or return) isn’t just about apologizing; it’s about rebuilding connections.
- I’m setting aside some quiet time for cheshbon hanefesh (self-reflection). I’ll be thinking about moments I’m proud of from this past year, as well as areas where I hope to grow. It’s not about being hard on myself, but about understanding myself better.
- I’m making an effort to connect deeply with my community, including joining a pre-fast dinner with friends at Hillel, and calling family members. Before, throughout, and after the holiday, I’m focusing on strengthening these important relationships.
Even if fasting or attending services isn’t what you’re looking for, maybe there’s a way you’d like to mark the day that feels meaningful to you. It could be as simple as taking a quiet walk, spending time in meditation, or having a thoughtful conversation with a friend or family member about your hopes for the coming year. It’s not about perfection; it’s about connection.
However you find your own meaningful way to mark Yom Kippur, I hope it brings you some peace and clarity.
Wishing you a Shabbat shalom and Yom Kippur filled with warmth, connection, and growth. If you’re fasting, I hope it is an easy one! G’mar chatima tovah, may we all be sealed in the Book of Life!
Take good care,
Alyssa
Originally from Los Angeles, Alyssa Wallack is a senior at the University of Southern California. A passionate advocate for Jewish and Israel-related causes, she’s now interning with Hillel International. When not immersed in her studies or various fellowships, Alyssa loves exploring LA’s food scene and connecting with fellow students about all things Jewish.
Letters from Alyssa is a series of reflections and advice from Alyssa Wallack, a Hillel International Intern. Read Alyssa’s recommendations for approaching your professors about missing class on the High Holidays.